When you first learned you were a lesbian, it was a big shock, and it took a while to find out if you were one.
But now that you’re in your late 40s, you can finally tell if you are.
You have the right to choose, and you can live your life as you choose.
But there are still plenty of unanswered questions about who you are and where you’re headed, says Dr. Karen Regan, a psychiatrist and author of the new book, “Lives, Loves, and Loves”: The LGBT Patient, Loneliness, and Therapy.
“People are still not getting the full picture about what it’s like to be gay in their relationships,” she says.
In the early stages of the illness, people may have difficulty identifying their sexual orientation.
When a new sexual orientation is discovered, the person may be confused, angry or scared, says Regan.
The same can be true of people who are sexually active and feel that they can be with anyone.
“It can be a real struggle for some people to be honest with themselves and their sexuality,” she adds.
When you start to feel more comfortable with yourself, your sexuality is more obvious, and your partner can be more comfortable.
“You can get along with everyone you date,” says Rehan.
“But if you don’t have that confidence, it can be difficult to keep a relationship going.”
How does it feel to be straight?
How does being gay affect your relationship?
How can I tell if I’m gay?
Are there gay people in my family?
What can I do to help people find their way?
When you find yourself in a new relationship, you may be tempted to think, “I’m just doing what I want,” says Dr, David D. Anderson, a clinical psychologist and author.
You may feel guilty or ashamed.
“There’s this idea that being gay is about being different or wrong or weird or strange, and that you have to be the opposite,” he says.
“What you really want is a relationship with someone who understands you, who is understanding of you, and who wants to be your partner.”
But the truth is, being gay can feel like a lifelong struggle.
For some, it’s a life-altering event that can affect their entire lives.
“If I had to go back and do it again, I think it would have been a much different relationship,” Anderson says.
You can still have the same gay experiences, but it may take some time to adjust, he says, and the impact of being gay may take years to fully understand.
What can you do to support someone who is gay?
Find ways to support your partner’s journey, says Davenport.
If you know someone who has been diagnosed with anorexia, you might be worried about how that will affect their eating.
“They are very vulnerable, and they need to have their eating disorder treated,” he explains.
“Your job is to help them understand that their eating is a symptom of their illness, not the cause.”
When you’re dealing with a loved one with an eating disorder, Davenports says, you should take the time to talk to them about their feelings, especially if they feel like they’re getting “nervous and defensive.”
You can also seek support from family and friends.
“Many of us are so busy thinking about our own needs that we’re not really talking to our friends, our neighbors, or our patients,” he adds.
“Our job is really to help each other and to find ways to work together to help the person we love.”
Find out more about how being gay affects your relationship and mental health at fourfourtwo.com/LGBT.
A real estate agent in Toronto has resigned after allegedly taking part in a racist and sexist tirade against her client
A Toronto real estate broker has resigned following an alleged racist and homophobic tirade by a client, her lawyer says.
“I was very shocked and saddened by what happened to Ms. Jafari,” attorney Michael Cavanagh told reporters at a news conference on Thursday.
“We are going to investigate the allegations.”
The lawyer said Jafaris alleged she was targeted because of her race and ethnicity.
Jafaris was allegedly in a relationship with a man who has a criminal record.
Cavanaghs client said the man was not involved in the alleged harassment, and that he was unaware of any threats or harassment directed at his client.
“It’s a sad day for me,” said Jaffaris, who said the relationship ended a few weeks ago.
“If this was an isolated incident and nothing more, I would have resigned years ago.
I am a woman of colour and I’ve had to deal with that all my life.”
The woman, who is in her early 20s, was allegedly part of a group of women who called the broker a “bitch” and “dindu” on the phone, and repeatedly called her a “white c***” during their chat.
In a video of the alleged incident posted online, the woman can be heard repeatedly telling the broker she does not want to talk to her and calling her a racist name.
“You are a racist,” she said.
“That is a racist thing to say.”
The broker told CBC News she has worked with clients for decades and has never had to face racism.
“The thing that really got me was the tone of the phone call.
She was calling me a b****, a cunt, a bitch,” she told CBC.
“I said, ‘I’m not a bitch.
I’ve never had a call like that.'”
In her resignation letter, the broker said she will not accept any money from the firm.
“It is not about money,” she wrote.
“If I am not able to keep my job, I will not work for them.”
Cavanaghes told reporters that he has contacted the Ontario Human Rights Commission, which he said will be investigating the incident.
“These kinds of incidents don’t happen in my day and age,” he said.
“There are some serious problems with racism in the workplace and in our society.”